So refreshing and so completely true! The middle is the hardest part but the true friends & supporters shine for you in this time & it weeds out the rest! Keep killing it!! X
I loved reading this! It hit so close to home for me. As I’m growing in my career I can see how much envy others have, especially women, towards each other. And it also is a great reminder to not downplay what work I’ve done and I will definitely try to not say “just”.
I really liked the way you unpacked our tendency as Brits to downplay our achievements and use diminishers. I’ve recently been thinking about how we often look for a consensus from those around us before we change, I think the tall poppy syndrome you’ve discussed here plays a part in that
Incredibly honest article and fascinating to learn a out the tall poppy syndrome. I do also wonder to what extent our envy is justified - we might envy the version we see of someone else without understanding all the long hours and sacrifices that has got them there. And maybe if we saw that, we wouldn't want that life?
Yea huh. Or when people just say "She got lucky." they're telling themselves that it has nothing to do with their talent or hardwork and it confirms to them that they wouldn't be able to achieve this either anyway.
At a wedding not too long ago, someone asked me the dreaded "What do you do?" and I did not know how to answer. I had moved from Singapore to Lyon with my family for about a year by then, and the one job I found did not suit me and my new lifestyle (I quit after 2 weeks); I was still figuring things out. In the end, I said I was a mum and it fell so flat for me. What did I mean, I was a mum? So many other mothers are also mums but they don't introduce themselves as that, do they?
I am still figuring things out at the moment, and may be on the path to publishing my first book, who knows. But whatever it is, I will definitely not say "just." :)
I love your platform so much Mia, it’s really applicable to my work as a full-time indie artist and when I first started putting out music I had a lot more “support” than now that I’ve grown my career into this middle zone, where I have so far to go still but I’m no longer a baby artist. I feel like I’m always being misperceived by people around me... I’m also kiwi so the tall poppy syndrome hits so close to home! All this to say thank you, feeling seen & not alone x
I'm from New Zealand and I can tell you it's true, it's rough over there. How dare you succeed. After immigrating to the The States, I noticed the difference immediately. People actually...celebrate you.
This is such a great topic and article, Mia! It’s also incredibly relatable outside of the business world. For instance, when you work on your mindset and behaviour patterns, but then, the people who aren't growing try to pull you down and label you as 'changed'.
So refreshing and so completely true! The middle is the hardest part but the true friends & supporters shine for you in this time & it weeds out the rest! Keep killing it!! X
I loved reading this! It hit so close to home for me. As I’m growing in my career I can see how much envy others have, especially women, towards each other. And it also is a great reminder to not downplay what work I’ve done and I will definitely try to not say “just”.
Wonderful article! Thank you!
Great article!
I really liked the way you unpacked our tendency as Brits to downplay our achievements and use diminishers. I’ve recently been thinking about how we often look for a consensus from those around us before we change, I think the tall poppy syndrome you’ve discussed here plays a part in that
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Incredibly honest article and fascinating to learn a out the tall poppy syndrome. I do also wonder to what extent our envy is justified - we might envy the version we see of someone else without understanding all the long hours and sacrifices that has got them there. And maybe if we saw that, we wouldn't want that life?
Yea huh. Or when people just say "She got lucky." they're telling themselves that it has nothing to do with their talent or hardwork and it confirms to them that they wouldn't be able to achieve this either anyway.
At a wedding not too long ago, someone asked me the dreaded "What do you do?" and I did not know how to answer. I had moved from Singapore to Lyon with my family for about a year by then, and the one job I found did not suit me and my new lifestyle (I quit after 2 weeks); I was still figuring things out. In the end, I said I was a mum and it fell so flat for me. What did I mean, I was a mum? So many other mothers are also mums but they don't introduce themselves as that, do they?
I am still figuring things out at the moment, and may be on the path to publishing my first book, who knows. But whatever it is, I will definitely not say "just." :)
I love your platform so much Mia, it’s really applicable to my work as a full-time indie artist and when I first started putting out music I had a lot more “support” than now that I’ve grown my career into this middle zone, where I have so far to go still but I’m no longer a baby artist. I feel like I’m always being misperceived by people around me... I’m also kiwi so the tall poppy syndrome hits so close to home! All this to say thank you, feeling seen & not alone x
I'm from New Zealand and I can tell you it's true, it's rough over there. How dare you succeed. After immigrating to the The States, I noticed the difference immediately. People actually...celebrate you.
Brilliant Mia!!!
Thanks Miranda!
This is such a great topic and article, Mia! It’s also incredibly relatable outside of the business world. For instance, when you work on your mindset and behaviour patterns, but then, the people who aren't growing try to pull you down and label you as 'changed'.